When Should Sex End?

What does a successful sexual experience mean to you? We consider how sex might be fun, playful, filled with enjoyment or, of course, sexy. But how do we know that sex was successful for all parties involved. The answer might surprise you.

Studies in the 1950s (Kinsey Reports) and more recent research from 2005 indicate that for many couples, the median time for intercourse is between 3 to 10 minutes. For many, this brief duration is often framed by when the male partner ejaculates, making it a common "end point". Does this sound familiar to you? While this may be reported as the norm.. should it be?

Couples in same sex relationships have a different experience. Often sighting prolonged intercourse with not one specific end in sight. No surprise then that many same sex couples report higher degrees of both sexual satisfaction and orgasm during sex.

So the answer comes down to personal desire. What would feel right, feel stimulating, feel exciting for you? If the standard in your relationship is falling into that 3-10 minute mark there is always room to shift it. Sex and intimacy can reach new heights. You just have to decide that you want more than the status quo.